Smile;-) Give them one of yours 02/23/2010
A smile costs nothing but gives much. It enriches those who receive without making poorer those who give. It takes but a moment, but the memory of it sometimes lasts forever. None is so rich or mighty that he cannot get along without it and none is so poor that he cannot be made rich by it. Yet a smile cannot be bought, begged, borrowed, or stolen, for it is something that is of no value to anyone until it is given away. Some people are too tired to give you a smile. Give them one of yours, as none needs a smile so much as he who has no more to give. ~Author Unknown What work I have done I have done because it has been play. If it had been work I shouldn't have done it. Who was it who said, "Blessed is the man who has found his work"? Whoever it was he had the right idea in his mind. Mark you, he says his work--not somebody else's work. The work that is really a man's own work is play and not work at all. Cursed is the man who has found some other man's work and cannot lose it. When we talk about the great workers of the world we really mean the great players of the world. The fellows who groan and sweat under the weary load of toil that they bear never can hope to do anything great. How can they when their souls are in a ferment of revolt against the employment of their hands and brains? The product of slavery, intellectual or physical, can never be great. Mark Twain Security is mostly a superstition 02/18/2010
Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure or nothing. Helen Keller Smile ;-) 02/05/2010
Smiling triggers all sorts of pleasure sensors. Think about it this way, you see two very attractive people across the room. Both have the same alluring qualities. You can’t seem to choose one over the other. One is just sitting there with that blank look while the other is smiling. As you sit and look at them both, you find yourself being pulled more and more to the one who is smiling. Why? Because smiling is like a magnet. It pulls on your heart and makes you feel warm inside. You smile back. You just can’t help it. Smiling is welcoming; inviting. So smile. Not some cheesy smile but a sincere, heartfelt smile that says, “Hi”. Imagine the world if there was no communication between us. What a boring world that would be. Communication is the key to making any relationship work. When you are dating, it is vital. Communication will help you learn about one another to see what things you have in common. When dating, begin with simple conversation. Find out what the other person likes. You want to know more about them and them about you. Do they like sports? If so, who is their favorite team? Does she like horror movies over drama? This could be helpful when renting or going out to a movie. However, communication is a gradual process so you want to start out small. Don’t start immediately talking about religion or politics. These are topics that can be considered “hot buttons” and if rushed could be the end to what would have been a good date. You want your conversation to flow naturally. So take your time and let the progression just come. Remember, if things go well you should have plenty of other dates to get in there and talk about things more in depth. Dating is often looked at as a means to an end; something that must be done. We all think of finding that special someone who will be our soul mate; our best friend. They will be the one person who will bear witness to our lives. This will include the good, the bad and yes, the ugly. It doesn’t take years to get to know someone. Sure, you’re always going to discover things about each other as the days and years pass but you can get to know the basics in less than 30 days. Dating helps facilitate this process. Dating is a garden and the time you spend together are the seeds that will fertilize the relationship and make it grow. If you take time to tend to your garden, you’ll notice when the weeds start to grow and you can remove them immediately so that you’re garden will blossom and continue to bloom. However, if you don’t invest in your garden then the weeds can quickly take it over and choke out everything that is beautiful about it. Who am I to talk about smile, dating and communication – anyway? I'm a happily married guy with a (of course beautiful wife), three children and a dog. Smile ;-) arthur |